KNOCKING ON THE DOOR OF SUCCESS: WHY YOU SHOULD KEEP FIGHTING

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“Don’t walk away when success is on the other side.”


For the past 6.5 years I have been writing my screenplays, with the hopes of securing an agent. Now that I have more of a handle on my writing, I want to pursue an agent in the year 2018. But what I don’t want to do is quit when I am so close to doing what it is I want to do in life. I always remember the quote from Thomas Edison, “Many of life’s failures didn’t realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” I have used this quote in other prior posts as well. And that feeling that so many people get when they stop pursuing and see others doing what they wanted to do. It hurts because it makes them realize how they might have been able to win if they stuck it out. But instead they ran away because it became far too tough to continue. And why do so many stop short of their dreams in life.

Usually people stop pursuing because they are getting older and older and start to see their lives slipping away from them. They are pumped about their dream job at 20 years old, then 25 comes and they’re still pumped. But once 30 years of age hits, they start to get that feeling of it hasn’t happened by now. That feeling that everyone else is going on in life without you, but you are still dragging along. I myself, am 30 years old pursuing screenwriting/filmmaking and as a novelist, but I work retail and as an usher. Most people I know have already gotten married and started having children. But me, I am single and have no children; and from the looks of things, I won’t be having children and dating anytime soon. And in a life that is long, why do we have these ways of seeing the world as over at such a young age? It’s because we are on a clock that society has stated you should be doing certain things by a certain age.

But then again, why should we be doing certain things? What if you’re like me and don’t want to get married or have children? You tend to look at society from a totally different standpoint. To you, life is long and you have years to focus on building a family. Yet to those living by the societal standard, they must be married by a certain point, have children, have a career. And the question states, why? There is no scientific proof of the world not spinning on its axis if you don’t live your life by certain standards. I’s because we want to be accepted, even if it’s at the cost of not being happy. We would much rather exist in a world where we’re unhappy and fit the societal standard than to be dangerous on the outside of it. And in the end, that’s why we fall short of our success. We want to satisfy others and not ourselves. We want to fit into a group not build on something we love. It’s a lot of group think in order to be with the pack. And people want the group acceptance.


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POOR MAN’S HUNGER DRIVE: WHY PEOPLE FROM A CERTAIN SOCIOECONOMIC GRIND HARDER THAN OTHERS

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“A thick-skinned path to success is tough for people with soft skin.”


As a young man pursuing my career as a writer, photographer, and filmmaker; I will be going through these up and down periods in my life. But what has prepared me for that was growing up in a poor household. With everything that is a downside of life at the bottom, there is this upside. And that upside is that you have this willingness to succeed that no one else has in life. So many people who aim to succeed leave their parents house and return after college having to move back home. But there are the ones who moving back home is not an option because home is not available anymore. These are the students who take college more serious and work through school rather than indulge in a social life. They realize that there is no backup after college and must be working to attain something.

But what are some other reasons as to why the kids born into a household of substantial means don’t have the true grit as the poor. And it goes back to the adversity. When you watch professional athletes, a lot of the greats have come from these poverty stricken environments. They have all the odds stacked up against them and they fight like their lives depend on it. How many well to do kids fight like their lives depend on it? It’s because they work to succeed, but they have a support system there to aid them. When you don’t have anything, and you are put in a position where you’re forced to be better, then you may ultimately win. It has a lot to do with survival. If you took a person from the upper class and told them to hunt in the safari of Africa for food it would be harder than a homeless man not knowing where his next meal will come from.

In the end, for the reasons above are the main reasons why some people of wealth cut their children off financially. Because they want their children to know how to face adversity. What if the family fortune is lost for some reason or another. Then what you’ll have is a self-destruct kid. They have never known what it was like to hustle in life. Now they have to do something and don’t know where to start. So you must throw them out into society and make them fend for themselves. If not, then you’ll turn into an enabler and it could ultimately hurt the child in the end.


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CONQUERING FEAR THAT ISN’T FEAR AT ALL

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“Made up problems that really don’t exist.”


Failure to launch is the term we use for someone that has a hard time stepping into the world and being on their own. They do so because they either don’t have anything that they are passionate about, or don’t have any goals. And when you don’t have goals you just sit around hoping for things to fall into place. But as long as you’re not putting yourself into harms way, then things can’t happen to you. But the harms way is the main reason why so many people will not step into society. Now me on the other hand, I love the risk, I love the fear, I love the unknown. I have a short film I will be producing in less the 11 days, and have no clue how it will go. The project could flow, or I could run into multiple problems. My first short film I had problems, but it was a learning experience for my second one. But what is it about what I do that makes it so hard for so many others to do?

You see, growing up, my mother always kept my sisters and myself in the library and school. She made sure we were in academic environments, or some other environment where I had to get in the game of life. So I fear, but I still do anyways. And there is a reason for me not quitting out of fear. It’s because I have been prepped to step into the world knowing I will fall before I gain my Image result for mother silhouettefooting. My mother told her children growing up, “Struggle through your 20’s, to have a life you want afterward in your 30’s and so forth.” So for me, it’s second nature for me to attack in life. And my mother wasn’t some PhD or Master’s Degree holder. She only had a high school diploma, and nothing more than that. Yett she was willing to put herself in the know when it came to raising her children. And that know has made her children fearless to step into the world.

Now, as far as the people who fail to rise to the occasion, like I said earlier, they have these fears. What’s odd is that they are usually the extroverted people. The introverts always so much more successful in their careers. It’s odd because if the extroverts used that outgoing personality then they would be so much more successful. For some reason, they don’t see it that way. It’s for that
reason that extroverts I feel need an opposite to befriend or be in relationships with. And like the extroverts, introverts need someone who is more fearless in their pursuit of personal happiness. I grew upRelated image with so many people that if they put that extrovert personality to use they could be on a whole other level. But what is interesting is that they look at me and say, “How do you do that?” As if I have some sort of magical power. I don’t have any magic powers, it’s just that I fall and get up because I know falling is an aspect of life.

See, in the end, you should approach success like approaching hanging out with friends. The same way you network in your friendships, you network in your career endeavors. When you try meeting new people, do you give up when someone does not want to hang with you? No, you just hang around people that want to hang around you. It’s the same with success; you have to put yourself out there. And the reason they don’t is the fear: fear of what others think, fear of failing, and fear of having to continue to satisfy. But me, I want the risk, I love the unknown, I love the fear; it’s what makes me feel alive.


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MAKING GOOD MONEY: HOW COME PEOPLE DON’T HAVE A MORE DECLARATIVE CAREER EXPLANATION

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“We all want it, but what is good money?”


Ever hear people who are either unemployed or looking for work while on a job say they want to make good money. What exactly is a good job or good money? We all have a different perspective on what that means, but no one can define it in an entirety. So when I hear people say they need a “job” making “good” money I pause. For me, I am currently pursuing my goals of becoming a successful writer (screenplays, playwrights, novels, and blogger), filmmaker, photographer, and podcaster. I would like to make at least $60,000 per year as a start to work for myself. I have given myself 10 years to break into my career as a writer/filmmaker. I am currently at year five almost six. And there you have it, a nice basic understanding for what my goals are in a career. But I always hear these very vague ideas of what it is that people want from life.

I said in an earlier post that adults who need jobs are like crying babies. You can’t communicate with a baby when it’s crying because the baby can’t talk. Only problem with adults is that we can talk. And unlike the baby where you have to give the baby milk, rock the baby, and do all these activities to guess the problem, it’s not the case with adults. A fully grown adult should know more than a baby their problem that is bothering them. And that is the problem with the I need a good paying job inquiry. What job? Paying what? What time period to get to that point? What is your level of expertise? Is this something you really enjoy doing? Do you have the stomach to build in your career choice? So many people don’t know the answers to any of these questions because they lack self-awareness. And that is the main problem.

Because when trying to look for employment, you have to first acknowledge the skills you possess. You can’t just say I need a job and expect people to know your skills. I know what I am good at in this world. It’s not my job to know your strengths and weaknesses. It’s not my job to give you a certain level of skills. Your job is to show me what it is you can do. That is what I mean by self awareness. By a certain age, you should have some level of degree to which you know your skills. That’s why the whole find a job, get a job is very vague. If I realized that my skill is writing, then I am going to pursue my writing career. If there are other skills I have, I’ll pursue those as well. You should pursue whatever you find that is a skill of yours that you not only love, but in the long term can make an income performing.

In the end, not having a firm understanding of who you are is going to be the defining outcome. If you don’t know what you are good at then who does. It’s your brain, you know what your mind wraps around. And if your mind does not wrap around the concept of anything, you’re not going to be hired even if someone was offering jobs. You should know to some degree what career title you want, income associated, and years to rise to another position. And it all comes together in knowing how to put yourself in the know of whatever it is you want to do in life.


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THE HIGH COST OF NOTHING: WHY DOING SOMETHING IS WORTH MORE THAN DOING NOTHING

blackboard, board, chalk“I’m not guaranteed to succeed, so why try.”


At times you might figure, why bother trying to succeed in what it is you want to do in life. I should just get a day job and do that for life. There is no use trying to push toward something to only be let down in life. Yet if you don’t do anything with your life you will ultimately fail anyways. So why not push yourself to do well with the hopes of a successful outcome. And the main reason is that people don’t want to deal with the idea of failing. So we choose our paths in life that gives us the most safety. But safety and security is not necessarily the path that will lead to us being the best us. A safe secure life usually means lower to mid range pay and little to no time off of work.

And that is not a life so many people want, but wind-up having for themselves. And for the people that are willing to put the time into making themselves better, they generally are put into positions higher than those that don’t work at their future. And that’s another aspect of why people find it hard to work at their craft and play life safe. Putting the work into your future requires a lot of alone time to reflect and plan. Then you also have to take what you have planned and put it in motion. That’s where you see the difference between the people who can talk a good game, and those that actually go into the world and do. And the ones that do nothing, generally end up not doing anything in life. But what are some other reasons people tend to do nothing and play life safe or fail to succeed at anything.

In addition to the above reasons we choose to do nothing because of the outside influences. The people who say what you’re doing you’re not good enough. They are the ones that either don’t want you to succeed because they weren’t good enough; or they can’t bear to see anyone outshine them. So they try to knock you down to keep you from trying, and maybe succeeding at what they failed to accomplish. So with them as influences, you become in doubt, and soon give up on your ambitions. And this is when you make your fatal mistake. See, the end, it’s not about trying to impress the people around you. You are supposed to run your race in life. You also don’t want to not try out of fear of failure. Because the cost of doing something might overall be less costly than doing nothing at all.


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WHEN TALENT DOESN’T WORK HARD: WHAT HAPPENS WHEN TALENT IS NOT CULTIVATED?

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“Step ya game up.”


Have you ever seen someone with so much talent. Yet they choose to squander it away? It does not matter if it’s them getting into trouble or being flat out lazy. You hate to see people with so much going for themselves and then they just throw it away. One reason is because you can almost start to get all these visions for who they could be if they actually put the time into making themselves better. And at times, you wish it were you who had all this talent because of what you could see yourself doing that is more. But it was not you who was born with such talent. It was them and now you must stand aside and see them throw it all away. And no matter what you say to them it’s always through one ear and out the other. Well, is there anything you can do to deter them from their path of destruction?

Yes, there are a few ways to get through to these types of people. One way is to explain to them how much they could achieve if they put the time into their work. Sometimes people need that verbal conversation to let them see the nature of their ways. And it’s that verbal conversation that could get them to say, “I never realized that I had that level of potential in my life.” And those words of encouragement as well as someone in their corner could be enough. And when you tell them, they might even know this already, but the fear of succeeding could be holding them back as well. Almost like they’re purposely acting stupid even though they are really smarter than everyone thinks of them. And when this happens, or if the verbal discussion does not resonate with them, you have to go to the next best solution. And that next best step is to show them the results of their work.

This typically works quite well when trying to convince someone of their abilities. You place them in environments where they can see where their hard work can get them. Meaning, if you see someone that is throwing it all away, find a way to expose them to the rewarding aspects of life. Find the things that they love the most, then show them that in which they love on a higher level if they focus on their skills. And this may be the kick they need to propel themselves forward. For example, luxury goods are tangibles that the slacker loves to visually indulge in, so you use that as a motivator. Show them what they are capable of, how in reach those tangibles are, and you could turn them around. Do you want them only motivated by money, no, but if desperate times call for desperate measures, you could use this to work in their favor.

In the end, it hurts so much to see people throw away what could potentially make them the next great leader in our society. The next great scientist, attorney, athlete, engineer, entertainer, CEO, politician, or educator. And a lot of times they don’t realize how good they could have been at something in life until it’s too late in life, or they find themselves in a predicament they can’t escape. Hopefully the majority of these greats find their way because it not only has negative effects on their own lives, but they also rob society of greatness as well.


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LOST IN A DAILY TRANCE: HOW WE WOULD RATHER DREAM THAN MAKE A MOVE ON THEM

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“A dream is nothing but a dream without plan and execution.”


The above photo is of Academy Award winning actor Jamie Foxx. The photography is from the movie Collateral where he co-starred opposite Tom Cruise. His character was a man who would drive people around in his taxi cab, and during his lunch breaks, gaze at luxury vehicles. His character had dreams of running his own car service of luxury vehicles. It would be an experience and not just a ride. That was his dream until he ran into Tom Cruise, who was a villain in the movie. Cruise’s villainous character, unlike Foxx, was a doer. And for obvious reasons he had to be because he was a hired hitman. So his career revolved around standing by his word to get the job done right. So what does all this have to do with the topic at hand? Well Tom Cruise made Foxx’s character realize something about himself.

Cruise’s character gave Foxx a big ultimatum regarding his dreams and expectations in the world. Cruise let him know that the in reality he was never going to do what he set out to done anyways. Foxx would be in a trance with day time television and then one day he’d die. Die, never accomplishing or even setting out to do what he said he wanted to do in the first place. And that is what this topic is about today, not setting out to accomplish goals. These are the dreamers, the people who would rather dream about what they want then to go get it. And like Jamie Foxx’s character who fancied himself with Mercedes Benz booklets of their latest fleet with hopes of starting his own car service, we look and gaze at the imagery. But the fear of failure keeps us from making a move. Yet we fail anyways in life when we do nothing.

Then again, it is all about fear in life? Sometimes we don’t know how to start what we want to do. For me, pursuing a writing was a little more clear than for most. I put myself in the know, and I am currently pursuing. I have been actively writing since the age of 25 years old. So now, with six years of writing under my belt, I have four more years to break into writing my screenplays, playwrights, and novels. But like I said, I have been writing, even putting together a short film and currently working on the production for my second. So putting yourself in position to work toward what you want is not a guarantee, but it is a step in the right direction. And that is the hardest part for people to stomach. Not the putting yourself into position; but more so, putting yourself in harms way to accomplish anything in life.

In the end, you don’t want to deal with the idea that you might set out to accomplish something and fail in life. But that’s part of the climb is to fail in life. You can’t attain success until you’ve stared into the eyes of failure. Because once you stare down failure the worst is behind you. Especially for those of us who had to climb to attain what we have in this world. You have no other choice but to take the road no one wants to travel. And it’s that road that makes you appreciate so much when you finally get to where you have to go.


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