ONE BAD DAY AWAY: HOW LIVING PAYCHECK TO PAYCHECK IS BIGGER THAN JUST MONEY

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“Pay check Friday, gone by Saturday, back broke by Monday.”


For me growing up in a household with a working poor mother, it was tough watching her struggle. One sick day, one missed pay period, and we could have been one of those families in a homeless shelter. What do you do when you’re living a life that feels like all hope is gone? When you look forward to the end of the day before the beginning even starts. That is the feeling of so many people in America. But living paycheck to paycheck is more than just a financial strain. It’s an emotional strain that causes more issues than not having money. People who are living poor generally have lower self-esteem, lower confidence, poor health, and their mental instability is typically higher. So what happens that places a person in these types of conditions?

Well, for me, I have a mother and father that both grew up poor and both their parents grew up poor. And that’s when you realize that poverty in America is more than just not having a job and not being able to get a job. It’s not the idea that people are lazy or don’t care about their futures. Poverty in America is generational; with every passing generation, you notice times get rougher and rougher. At least when my mother and father were young, there was a sense of community. In today’s society there is no community in the poor communities. You don’t even have the support of your family in life. So you almost have to cross your fingers and hope for the best. And if you fall, it’s not too hard of a fall that you can’t recover.

Another reason people live in poverty in America, is that there are so many people not in the know. And the know, is all the pieces coming together with all your knowledge to make your life make sense. And if you are not skilled enough to make your life make sense, then you cannot rise above where you are in life. Even with a good education, which helps, you still have to be able to put yourself in the know. Because a college degree is the icing on a cake, not any of the ingredients to make that cake. The ingredients come from you, and most people don’t know how to bake their success cake. They look at success like a fast food restaurant, “Just show me how to work the fries, and then I’m off to the races making big bucks.” It’s not that easy; it takes the elements that are skills, smarts, hard work, and some luck.

And in the end, when observing some of the prior elements of success, so many just don’t have in them. And if they do have these elements, they are totally unaware as to how to get the elements working for themselves. So they will live their entire lives not achieving anything remotely close to even an idea of success.


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YES YOU MAY: AMERICA AND OUR PERMISSION TO FIGHT BACK

“Speak when allowed, how come?”


In America today, we are constantly surrounded with controversy. Whether it’s the president or some other person in the public eye. But what I will never understand is how come we need so much permission to have a voice for ourselves. It’s almost as if the people can’t think for themselves. In the recent news we have been hearing about Hollywood Executive Producer Harvey Weinstein sexual misconduct over the years. And people have been coming out stating how they knew he was this type of person for years. But how come no one openly spoke about it. We hold truths inside and then when we get permission to speak we speak. And the only reason why this has become irritating is because of the self-serving attitude of Hollywood’s elite public figures. How could they be so social and yet so protective of Harvey. And its because they get permission.

But, you’re getting permission to speak, what about the issues. You always hear celebrities speak out against bad behavior, but they always find themselves in the middle of controversy for those same reasons. They attacked Trump for sexual comments he made and stated their upset with rape culture. But rape is bigger in their environment. And what will they say, my career is on the line. So were coaches jobs at Penn State, but you can’t protect pedophilia. And that’s when you realize as an adult you have to make immoral decisions to survive in America. You have to see things going on and keep your mouth shut. Crazy because as a child you are taught that when you see something say something. But no one prepares for a life of falsehoods. No tells you that there is no honor in being honest. That at every turn, honesty will get you killed. And why do we do it again: survival.

That’s right, survival. Since the beginning of time, man has made numerous attempts at surviving on this planet. And we have done just well for ourselves. But as it pertains to living with each other, we continue to fail one another. And we lie for each other because no one wants to feel ostracized. So we do things to each other and for each other that is out of character. Sometimes it could leave our better judgement under question. And that’s how wind-up back  having to survive, we don’t want to lose a gig. So we sacrifice better judgement for a check. And it’s because if we do take a stand, few will back us, and even fewer will fight with us. So we keep quiet, not realizing that our silence at times is just as dangerous as the person’s lies we’re covering.

And in the end, we get permission to speak out against someone. And that’s when we can open up about all the bad things they have done. And the populace is stunned, and you become relieved. But relief is short lived because you know that is just the tip of the iceberg. There are more bad guys, a lot more.


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MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES: WHY IT’S SO EMBARRASSING

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“The battle is real.”


In the United States, millions of people suffer from mental health issues in this country. And the reasons for these issues are very broad and wide. The only issues that I can speak about directly are my own. That’s right, I have dealt with issues concerning mental health for the greater portion of my life. And the issues have been anxiety, depression, and a slight case of bipolar. The majority of it is anxiety with the depression coming soon after. So if I had to break down my internal issues, it would be 70% anxiety, 20% depression, and 10% bipolar. Some stuff is in my head and can be dealt with, while others will never go away. And what’s interesting is that, that internal anxiety that stems from fears have made me more urgent in life. But why would a person like me, as smart, kind, thoughtful, become the three categories?

Well, for starters, it comes from a lack of interest in what everyone else in your peer group is doing. We might see that sometimes as a good thing in life, but it can be bad as well. When you begin to lose interest in the activities of your age group, you feel uncomfortable. Why? Well, when you can’t connect to people your age, you begin to isolate yourself from the group. The conversations that they have and what triggers in you, makes you feel weird. They all are talking about going to the movies or a music festival. But you have no interest in any of the age appropriate fun. And the activities that do spark interest in you, is so past the other kids your age. I never dated also because thinking about dating was more interesting than actually dating. So I lost my virginity late in life as well.

And that lack of interest and inability to connect makes you depressed. Because you are considered weird by your peers. Yet it wasn’t until I became an adult I realized that I was not weird, I just thought in regards to things past my age group. All the other young people my age want to go to SXSW, Coachella, or Lollapalooza; I am trying to become a great writer and academic. Then it hit me, there are plenty of people my age who think the same way as myself. Plenty of people who have become introverts because we see things as it pertains to the world that takes us out of our age group. When your peers are trying to figure out what nightclub to go to on the weekend, you’re trying to gain intellectual capital to catapult yourself into success. Your lack of interest in one area, heightens your awareness in other areas, giving you the ability to think in a way most your age don’t. You view the world a lot more wide and broad, and not as myopic.

In the end, my brain has grown as it pertains to the way I see the world socially, politically, and economically. And I’m not referring to a one sided view. Perspective, a perspective that allows me to see the world from others viewpoint that I would normally not agree with. I walk the streets and observe humanity in our natural element and gain my insights into the world through daily interactions. Most people my age are not walking the street people watching as a means to understand the human construct. So my anxiety and depression stems from not connecting because the inability to be interested in anything my age group is interested in, yet I don’t want to be around people much older. It has taken me 30 years to understand and hopefully as I reach middle age, my life will be want I wanted it to be 20 years prior.


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BRINGING YOU TO THE EDGE: WHY AS MEN WE MUST CHECK OURSELVES

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“Don’t let her make you just as emotional.”


 When we get in arguments as men, we tend to get to the same level of anger as the woman in the argument and it boils over. You are being pulled into this person emotionally, and cannot let that get to you. And the reason is because as men once we get emotional, it becomes how can I hurt this person the most. What can I say to get this person to shut up. Why, well we’re in charge of physicality. And that is not to say that as a woman you are this lesser in society (we know that given you birth our children). But what I will say is that men tend to carry ourselves in a more physical way with our emotions, whereas women are more internal. And what do I mean by men not letting the woman’s anger get to you; this is what I mean.

In any argument, one person is always trying to gain the upper hand over the other person. And with that comes insults that are thrown for what appear to come from deep down inside. And with the person trying to gain the upper hand, you will always have someone say something that they regret. And usually, it is us as men. Why is it us as men? The reason why us as men get to that point because once we reach the boiling point we try to hit you with anything to tear you apart. It’s to crush anything and everything you thought you had inside to give. But it most often result in us stopping before hand. Because that realness in how we feel could cut you deep. Which might ultimately make you out to be worse than the woman you’re arguing with.

Now, men typically say things we feel out of rage when feeling rejected in some sort. So we stoop to a much lower level than the woman to try to make her feel less because we can’t have her. And it has to do with checking our egos. But the other reason is that we hate to lose arguments so we say the worse thing we feel to win. Because in life to men, this battle is a zero sum; there has to be a winner and there has to be a loser. And in the moment of fighting, I have to win and you have to lose. So we will try to bring you down emotionally, to bring ourselves up in the fight. So in the end, we try to win at all cost, or least end the conversation when we want to end it. And once we feel we have lost control, we go to extreme measures to end the conversation. But what we really end of doing is saying something that shows us in a much worse light than the woman.


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SOCIALLY AWKWARD SUCCESS: WHY WE VIEW THE INTROVERT AS THE WEIRDO

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“I’m not quiet, I’m just in my head a lot.”


People have always told me that I am an introverted person. As a child I was not, but as time progressed, I became more and more introverted. And it was not due to any traumatic events, it came as a result of being in my head so much. I started to conjure up so many ideas and ways in which I could become successful. Then, then more I got into my head, the more I became detached from so many people. And when I say detached, I don’t mean detached in a way where I have lost my sense of humanity. But I mean detached as it pertains to connecting to so many people in my age demographic. The way in which I started to see the world around me changed as well as my interests. I went from looking at life so much one sided, to now having a more balanced view of the world.

So, then if I am so learned and so well traversed, then why do people think I am so introverted. Well, I am introverted during conversations that are not based in substance. In social situations where people are discussing something that does not pertain to something in depth, it’s tough for me. But when having to explain something that is more in depth, I tend to be comfortable. And it’s unfortunate that you get these labels when you are not as social. But the introvert does play a role in themselves being portrayed a certain way. Because you can’t shy away from people and then ask why do they view you a certain way. Because as we all know, first impressions are very important. And I know me myself, I give off bad first impressions. So if you meet me, you have to be around me for quite a while to develop and understanding of me.

Now what’s interesting is that the introverts are so successful a lot of times. Well, how could that be? The reason being that if you are always in thought, you are generally working out problems in your head. You’re not panicking as much, and you learn to deal with more issues as they come. You also learn to embrace the changes in life because you look at life from such a realistic perspective. So when people see you, and they can’t understand why you are so quiet, little do they know you are probably working out a major issue. And it does not have to be your own personal issue. You could have the key to fixing a problem in our society that no one else has found. Then once you find out, everyone is in shock because they assume you lack knowledge because you’re so quiet. When in reality, your silence keeps you listening, and you’re able to detect problems and fix them quicker.

And in the end, the socially awkward, the misfits, the introverted, the weirdo, the unknown; might ultimately be the true success. You can’t assume that people are not in the moment because they are not talking. They might be more in the moment than you are because their senses are heightened. They hear, taste, see, and touch everything; and can state in grave detail what it is they see.


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LAWS OF ATTRACTION: WHY GOOD LOOKING IS MORE THAN LOOKING GOOD

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“You can’t help who you like.”


The laws of attraction are an aspect of our daily lives that is kind of hard to explain. I have had to deal with having an attraction to someone and that someone was actually in a relationship. But you can’t help the physiological feeling you get when you come across someone. They have a different impact on you that makes you kind of lose your cool. They have your undivided attention and for some reason, you tend to listen when they speak a lot more than others. I have had this exist only a few times in my life, and each time the person was in a monogamous relationship. Yet even with the relationship, it still didn’t matter because you have this feeling. Now, it’s not infatuation or the feeling to stalk, yet it makes you unfettered by the idea that that person is in a relationship. So where does this euphoric feeling come from.

I don’t know where it comes from, and my feeling was toward two coworkers in the same work environment. It wasn’t so much as the two people were physically attractive as it was their perceived confidence. Their assurance in themselves made them quite appealing to me. But was that all. Maybe the idea of me not being able to date them is something else that made them more attractive. Because it’s like the saying, “We all want something we can’t have.” And the problem is, is that once we do get the thing we wanted, sometimes it’s not even that big of a deal. The idea of wanting it seems that much more special, than actually having it. So like I asked before, “Where does it come from?” And I am not referring to just finding someone attractive. I’m talking about being so into them, that you don’t want to hurt their significant other, but the other is just not important to you.

Well, there all kinds of definitions for why we have these attractions to one another. You would think that there is this one aspect of life we can look to and say that, that it. But the reality is that attraction is not just a physical attraction, but the energy the person gives off. Me, for example, I give off the energy that I am not in the mood to be bothered. But in getting to know me, I have a lot of knowledge and a lot to say. But the problem is, is when you are an introvert in your personal life, and an extrovert in your career pursuits people get confused. When it comes to my career goals, I jump right out there. But my personal life is more of a, “Who is he, and why does he exist really.” Whereas my career pursuit is, “I jump, knowing I can and may fall flat on my face, but I do it anyways.” So when people find out I have an attraction to someone it strikes takes them by surprise because I am not this open book person.

In the end, the laws of attraction, the energy that someone lets off makes you like them for some reason. Whenever they come around, your mood shifts, and it becomes difficult to be in their presence. But you manage to do so, even at the cost sometimes of being uncomfortable internally. And sometimes, just sometimes; you are able to tell them how you genuinely feel.


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GREEN CITY: HOW LONG BEFORE WE BECOME MORE ENVIRONMENTALLY FRIENDLY

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“A greener, better, us.”


I am quite unfamiliar with the going green campaigns that have been going around. But to me, it sounds pretty interesting that we could possibly see ourselves living a better, cleaner society. For now, we only have photos that are two dimensional models of what possibly could be for the future. As you can see, the photo at the top of the page is an example of what could be for a city going green. And if you know anything about the geographical landscape of the globe, trees help protect us from carbon dioxide in the air. So when you think about going green it makes sense to green a lot of our lives in the future. But what has caused this phenomena in the recent years? Well, for starters, it has a lot to do with the industrialization in our global economy.

Over the past 100 years in the United States, America has engaged in the industrialized marketplace. We heavily relied on factories for decades coming out of the 1800’s. And now that we have entered this new tech space, we are also making adjustments to the lifestyles we lead. In the past no one really knew that the gases that we were taking into our bodies were toxic working in these Image result for industrialization
factories. We didn’t realize the other chemicals we were exposing ourselves to while we worked long hours. But now that we know more, we have had to ship jobs overseas; in addition it saves a lot of money. Jobs have been lost, but productivity is more efficient and goods are cheaper. Besides our health and a new industry for employment, what are other benefits of a green society?

Well, plant life is a lot more lush because we were killing them by tainting the air quality. Like I said prior, the industrialization created a lot of jobs and opportunities. But the problems weren’t just health issues, we were constantly pumping gases into the air, effecting the quality. With this new push for a green society, we have animals and plants that were once facing extinction, able to restore themselves on our planet. And what was once thought of as a planet where we destroyed everything in our wake for capital gain, we would become more conscious. And that consciousness will inevitably aid everyone; both humans, creatures, and plant life.

In the end, it’s a topic that I am still glancing at every now and then. But over time, I think that more and more, I can see myself delving into this area. Going green is still fairly new for us right now, but as time progress, it will catch on Image result for GREEN CITYbecause it will ultimately aid in prolonging our lives on Earth.


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