WHY WE LIE: MEN AND OUR INABILITY TO TELL WOMEN THE TRUTH

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“I blame us for them not knowing.”


Women have so many questions as to why men act the way we act and talk the way we talk. But what about why we refuse to be honest with women. Well, a lot of us as men are afraid to be honest because we fear the rejection. We don’t want to give women any reason to say no. So what do we do, we tell them what they want to hear so we can get what we want. But is it always that simple, an in and out exchange. Sometimes it is, and other times we do it because we flat out don’t know what to say to women.

Well, let’s break down a little more why we lie. You see, initially, we look and see a woman for the physical. It is an ecstatic attraction right off the back. Then, the next goal is sexual, while a woman is the opposite. But we can’t come out and say that, yet women know to a certain extent that’s what you want. So you start to develop relationships not just to sleep with the woman, but you’re still in the sexual mode. Yet you build the relationship nonetheless. So why? Why do you continue to build if you came for the physical situation?

We continue to build because even as sexual as we are because in all, most humans are good people. Yet we also have this natural aspect to us that makes us want more. We want to act as if we are higher than the animal kingdom, but we are the same. The reason it’s so hard for us to communicate what we are is also because we have this conscious. The animal aspect about us is tough to talk about because that feeling has been determined to be problematic and not accepted in society. Meaning, we can’t come out right and say what we really feel because we are supposed to filter that emotion and say the right things. But we know that it is a true feeling.

In the end, we have a hard time being honest because of the social construct that won’t allow you to do so.  But it also has to do with a natural aspect of us that we have a hard time communicating because it is very internal. An internal feeling that is so hard to communicate because it’s not considered acceptable. And that’s what keeps us from admitting the truth. We can be honest, but the honest feeling is considered bad. So a lot of times we keep the emotion hidden and lie our way through life. Hoping no one finds out the truth.

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