PAST VS. PRESENT: DOES IT MATTER?

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“Is your past a reflection of your future?”

Should your past dictate your future? Or is it whatever you did in the past should stay in the past. Some people think the past is important others don’t. But what is important to you regarding what someone’s life was in the past. Does it matter in a relationship, in a societal situation such as on a job, or what about day to day interactions with people you don’t know. Let’s observe reasons a person’s past might matter or not matter. Such as a stranger moving to the neighborhood on a predator watch list.

If you have been placed on a list of names of people who are considered sexual predators people should be notified. Now what if this was in someone’s past? Should it matter if it was decades ago? Or does it not matter how long it’s been? If a man or woman were convicted of molestation 20 to 30 years ago and have lived their lives right since, some may dismiss their past. But considering a lot of former sex predators are placed in residential neighborhoods it makes parents nervous. Doesn’t matter how long it’s been, a sex crime against a child has no statute of limitations to a lot of people.

Well, what about something less predatory, like what if you are working on a job and someone was a convicted felon. Should the employer know? Well, on a job, this type of information has to be given up front anyways. Then if the employer has to know, does that mean other employees should know as well? On a job employees don’t have to know. What if the person with the felony was convicted for robbery/theft?  Other employees are not privy to this type of information either unless the employee shares this info, which most likely won’t happen. Well how about a sex crime? Especially if you’re a man convicted, this may rub some women you work with the wrong way.

Can we observe some other past history of a person that is for open discussion? How about intimate relationships? Should how many people someone dated be a topic of discussion? How about how many people that person slept with before you? These questions can be seen as subjective depending on the person you ask. I think that women are a lot more apprehensive about divulging their past information. It comes from so many double standards in our society. And any amount of guys a woman slept with before the guy she is with now may be seen as too many.

Well lets flip the script, does the past of a guy matter? What about if he’s cheated, been with a lot of women,  or even physically abused a woman he was with? Does any of this matter to the woman? The cheating and number of sexual partners may be something she could get over, but the physical abuse is something different. There are so many taboos with hitting women, that this might be unforgiven. In the end, a person’s past can either make them or break them. Whatever the case may be the choices we make tend to dictate the life we lead. And even if we turn our lives around, it could still lurk depending on the allegation.

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