“Hard to forgive, but easier to go through life.”
You ever have someone in your life do or say something that you feel you can not let go of. But why, why hold on to something for so long, especially if your life is going so well. Is it worth holding a grudge? There’s only a few things in life that may be seen as unapologetic. If someone takes the life of someone close to you, I understand the anger. But what about other things: your parent walk out of your life at a young, your significant other cheats on you, or someone close to you steals from you. Is any of these prior options worth not speaking to them for a lengthy period of time.
Let’s observe one of the prior options. What about if a parent walks out of your life at a young age? Depends on the situation. How about a boy? Is it harder for males to accept not having one of their parents not in their lives? Usually it’s the father not present in the child’s life. Could you as a male forgive not having your father? Let’s see what you miss out on: not being shown how to defend yourself, walk into society with confidence, change a tire, shave, or deal with rejection. These are typical things boys learn from their fathers. Can you say I forgive you?
How about a girl? Can you as a woman forgive your father for not being there? Fathers are suppose to protect their girls and show them an example of what men to choose to date in life. Or what about her loosing her mother? There is so much a girl need from her mother to learn about womanhood and femininity. How can her father show her how to be a woman, when he’s not one himself? He can aid in her being responsible, but not being a woman.
Well should a male and female forgive their parent? There is a lot of things you miss out on not having them around. But some people have went on to become more successful by not having that parent. Or, you might later on meet that parent and realize, they shouldn’t have been in your life after all. You should be thanking them for not being there. As a boy, you might be forced to witness your father abuse your mother. Or as a girl, witness your father cheating on your mother. Maybe sometimes it’s the best.
Well, what about if someone cheats in a relationship? For men, can you take back a woman that cheated on you in a relationship? Women are always taking men back when dating. Why is it so hard for men to do the same? We say women are the ones who are emotional, but our reactions make us more emotional. How about women? Can you take him back if he cheats? A lot of women are able to take him back. But there are still those women who say absolutely not. Now, can either one of you forgive for the cheating. Even if the relationship ends, can you forgive? It’s hard to forgive because it requires checking your ego.
Now, what about forgiveness when someone steals from you? Taking possessions of yours can be just as bad, if worst than getting cheated on. Because generally when people are stealing from you, it’s someone close. If a stranger steals from you fine, but family and friends can create a bind in your relationship. So how do you go about saying I forgive you. Well, I guess it depends on what they took from you. If it was something small, it can be forgiven, but what about major things? What about money that could jeopardize your living day to day? This may be harder because your life is now at stake. Some people can say forgive and forget, and some say never forget or forgive.
In the end, a clear conscious is crucial in your own sustainability. Because when you hold on to things that someone has done, it festers. The longer it sits there, the more it eats away at you. Because all you can think about is how they hurt you. It’s easier said than done. But in time, hopefully you find it in your heart to say sorry. Because you never want to stay mad at someone over something meaningless and that person dies. And you never get the chance to squash any beefs.