“Better you than their friends.”
Why do parents insist on not being up front with their children regarding sex? They act as if they don’t converse about it, maybe their children won’t lose their virginity. Since when has that ever worked. As a parent our job is to talk to your children. The only problem today is that you have to talk to your child at even a younger age than previous generations. As a matter of fact, past generations didn’t even entertain the idea of their child having sex. I guess the more time progress, the more open we become.
But, there are still so many parents that don’t talk. We’ve all grown up or have been the person who goes, “I can’t talk to my parents about sex.” “They would lose it if I asked a question about sex.” Well, what about the emotions that still run deep. Males and females still have emotions as they come through puberty. You would think parents could connect, being they were adolescence. On the other hand, that may be a reason that parents can’t talk. They think back to when they were young. The thoughts that went through minds and the emotions in their hearts.
Yet, this actually is a more logical reason to have a discussion. How can you not teach your kid the realities of life? “Well, if I tell them, I am almost promoting it.” “I am in a way opening the door for them to engage.” These are the responses from parents as to why they can;t have the conversation. On the other hand, let’s say you’re right, talking to them anyways would lower the risk of sexually transmitted diseases (STD). People with less education about STD’s are more likely to get and STD.
Well a more conservative parent says, “That’s why you wait until you’re married.” “Sex is for marriage, so you can’t get an STD when you’re married.” WRONG! As a matter of fact, married men and women have been diagnosed and continue to get diagnosed today and treated for STD’s. Well, isn’t marriage suppose to protect you from an STD. No, and the reason being is that if you never talk about sex, how do you bring up your significant others’ sexual history? Your parents didn’t talk, you never talked, now you don’t talk to your spouse.
So as you can see, having these type of conversations are very important. Especially if their friends are already talking to them. The friends will give them the misleading information which can lead to far more serious outcomes. Because they are going to find out, rather you tell them or not. It’s going to come from the person who brought them into this world. Or they are going to get outside advice. Which in turn you better hope that information is something they can grab hold on to.